Becoming a Cycle Breaker:
Coaching Group for Women Ready to Make Change
Dear Wise Woman,
Most likely, you have "Cycle Breaker" energy within you. I say that because you have landed on this site and are clearly interested in improving your life as a woman, daughter, and/or mother.
So what exactly is a Cycle Breaker?
A Cycle Breaker is a woman who wants to change the way things are for herself and/or her daughter.
In my work with women I have the privilege of exploring a person’s maternal lineage and uncovering common patterns and themes that have been handed down from generation to generation of women. Of course good things get passed down, but it’s not the good cycles that bring women to work with me. It’s the painful, often unspoken, patterns that get passed down and have negative consequences for women.
These cycles contribute to:
feeling shame for speaking up for yourself, or not knowing how
guilt for asking for what you want or even need
challenging mother-daughter relationships, feeling unheard or unseen by the other
feeling the need to always be of service to family, friends, and community to your own detriment
inadvertently shaming other women, including daughters
feeling the need to stay small to maintain approval
not really know what you want from life, or feeling lost
finding relationships that are never fully supportive
…the list goes on.
Cycle Breakers are women who yearn to change these things within themselves, and for their daughters if they have them. Becoming a Cycle Breaker means understanding the women of your past with compassion and actively choosing to break cycles to create a new life for yourself moving forward.
When we do the work of being a Cycle Breaker, we first must cultivate a larger perspective. This gives us compassion toward those women who have come before us. We can understand why a grandmother may be jealous of her daughter or granddaughter. We can understand why we were encouraged to “not make waves” and to just “be nice.” We can come to understand why we were discouraged from being our authentic selves when we can see the unlived lives of the women in our lineage. Once we have this awareness, we can then begin to shift and heal our path forward.
Sometimes we inherit heirlooms from previous generations that we really don't want, but feel guilty getting rid of because it was great grandma’s, or because every generation had it in their home. Letting go of the emotional burdens and harmful values that you inherited as a woman is like being willing to say, "no thanks, this heirloom of guilt and shame doesn’t coordinate with my peace of mind and my heart. I don’t need to keep this anymore," and releasing it. Being a cycle breaker means carving out a new way and taking care of yourself in a way that may cause you to step outside of your familiar zone. For moms, it means being a different kind of example to your daughter--and for all women, it means becoming both compassionate, gentle and courageous with yourself.
All of the work that I do is centered around this idea of Cycle Breaking.
We start at the root. We go through a process of cultivating awareness and clarity around the cycles that live in your lineage. Then we re-envision. We work together to create a blueprint of the new cycles that you want to instill in your own life, helping you move toward what you want to create, while letting go of the things that no longer serve you.
Becoming a Cycle Breaker is about understanding the past, taking care of YOU in the present, and moving forward in a new way--one that is unburdened by intergenerational patterns and societal expectations that have been unsupportive for women.
My work with Cycle Breaking has lead me to dream up my next coaching circle for Wise Women:
Be with like-minded women who are feeling a similar urge to pave a new path in their lineage. By surrounding yourself with women who encourage and want you to feel unburdened by your past, you will find the courage to make changes and recognize that new life can unfold for you.
In this group you will:
Have guided weekly gatherings with myself and other women who seek similar support and change as you.
Discover the common themes that have passed down through generations of women in your lineage.
Understand how these patterns have been active in your life and possibly the life of your daughter by recognizing the limiting beliefs you carry.
Gain resources and empowerment to feel you can make changes in your life despite old habits and fears.
Have support from other women who are on the same journey, benefiting from the wisdom of women in various life stages.
Have accountability for the goals you set for yourself
Clarify the new paths you want to take for yourself, thereby creating new positive patterns to experience in your own life and pass down through future generations.
This Group Will Start February 2024.